Dating intimacy advice
When I was in college, I remember having an experience that I referred to as a "love hangover." After being with a girl, the next morning I always felt an emptiness.That's something you won't see on TV or in the movies, but it happens a lot. The "love hangover" was a strange occurrence for me.It may die if you cease to coax it forward by sharing new things with your partner.Likewise, it may die if you force it forward too fast, making yourself too vulnerable too quickly.
Specifically, I've jotted down ten reasons why I'm now waiting until marriage to have sex.The speed with which you personally may feel comfortable becoming sexual with a new partner will likely be influenced by many factors including your age, sexual experience, beliefs about what your similar-age peers would do in your situation, attitudes towards sex and your general cultural and religious values.As sexual relations with a new partner do put people at some physical, social and emotional risk, all people should proceed towards new sexual relationships with caution, and young people especially should take their time and not rush into anything. Consider that your partner will have likely had other partners recently and that he or she may possibly have one or more sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).No matter how much you long for it, you cannot force the development of intimacy.Rather, intimacy has to grow organically and at its own pace.
So, finally, I came to the conclusion that premarital sex wasn't all it's cracked up to be. Often a girl will justify sex by saying, "But I love him," even if she doesn't really want to go through with it. It's been said that, "Girls use sex to get love; guys use love to get sex." This is how it works: the girl is picturing marrying the guy some day; the guy is picturing everything he wants to do with the girl before he goes back to tell his buddies about it.